Meet SneakerFreakSyd

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from SneakerFreakSyd, a woman who is not only making her mark in the sneaker community but also a social/digital media genius!

@sneakerfreaksyd

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

To me, it’s a mantra of awareness that women also have a strong foundation and have built supportive communities in a male dominant space. It’s three simple words that shed light on all the amazing women who continue to have a voice through creativity and style in the sneaker industry.

Who is one woman in the Sneaker Community you look up to and why?

There are honestly so many, whether it’s because of their creativity, their platform or just showing their authentic selves through the connection of sneakers. But if I had to pick just one I would say Christina from @if_i_cant_wear_snkrs. The platform she’s created to not only connect women but keep them informed without a team and without being paid is just a true testament and example of the force women are in the sneaker culture.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and perceived in the sneaker community what would it be?

One thing that I would change is that we always have to have “a hint of girly girl” in our style or our preference of sneakers down to color ways and silhouettes. There’s so much diversity in the who, what, when, where, why and how we are connected to this space. It’s a lot more than us just being girls in cute shoes.

Be sure to give her a follow on IG: SneakerFreakSyd

If you’re interested in growing your brand and presence on social media follow her business page, Digital319

Meet ImSimplyB

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from ImSimplyB, a woman who makes every effort to give women in the sneaker community a space to speak about their experiences in the sneaker community/industry.

@imsimplyb

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

All women in the sneaker space should be treated equally and with respect.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

I don’t have just one women that I look up, there’s honestly too many to count. I host a weekly IG Live show called Sneaker Sunday that centers the conversation on women in sneakers. I’ve had the opportunity to speak with collectors to major brand VPs, each of their stories and experiences have inspired me. Each woman has created a lane in her own way which is amazing to experience. I’m so glad that I can share in it.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

There’s this misconception that women aren’t knowledgeable about sneakers. Women are automatically seen as ignorant to it all. Constantly being tested to make sure we’re “qualified” to be in the space or rock a certain pair of kicks. I know so many women who prove the misconception wrong daily!

Be sure to give her a follow on IG: https://instagram.com/imsimplyb?utm_medium=copy_link

Head over to IG to Check out the past episodes of Sneaker Sunday with @imsimplyb and check out the links below to see some of the ladies that have been featured each season

Season 1: https://www.instagram.com/imsimplyb/guide/ladies-of-sneaker-sunday-season-1/17865061169202209/?utm_medium=copy_link

Season 2: https://www.instagram.com/imsimplyb/guide/ladies-of-sneaker-sunday-season-2/17874059330175674/?utm_medium=copy_link

Season 3: https://www.instagram.com/imsimplyb/guide/ladies-of-sneaker-sunday-season-3/17932662892752905/?utm_medium=copy_link

Meet SolelyAboutNyyyy

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Let’s start off with Shanyah, who goes by SoleyAboutNyyyy on IG!

@soleyaboutnyyyy

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Respect female sneakerheads means to me, giving us credit where credit is due. Credit that is genuine, not watered down, or attached to sarcasm.

Tell me about one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

One woman in the sneaker community that I look up to is Teyana Taylor. If you know, you know. She’s literally an OG in the game. She has been the inspiration and blueprint for a ton women within this industry/community for yearssssss. Her style and collection alone is unmatched. She deserves so much more respect and flowers than she’s given.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

It would be how were perceived. Women are shape shifters — especially black women. We look and come in so many shapes, sizes, and have soooo many different talents and abilities. Talents and abilities that need to be used and stories that need to be told. We’re not here just to shut up and look cute. Stop playing us small.

Be sure to follow her on IG: https://instagram.com/solelyaboutnyyyy?utm_medium=copy_link

Transatlantic Slave Trade

Author: JAG

In the north in 1636 there was something called voluntarily night watch, which was usually hired by the rich to do their dirty work. The night watch evolved into the first publicity funded police force of the north in Boston. The south was a different story because the main enforcement need was of slaves. Like the night watch, the slave patrols and state militia were hired to capture runaways and activist. Following the civil war and the freeing of the last slaves in Galveston, Texas on June 19,1865, the slave patrol and slavery of an innocent individual was deemed illegal by the 13th Amendment to the U.S Constitution. Even though slavery was deemed illegal, the 13th amendment enabled slavery of an individual if he or she was proven guilty for a crime.

“Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.” –https://www.history.com/topics/black-history/thirteenth-amendment#section_3 

This left the night watch in the north, state militia for each state and the Ku Klux Klan (established in 1865) to continue to enforce law and order where hired throughout the nation. Since slavery was now illegal many states adapted Jim Crow laws which enforced racial segregation of colored and whites until the Civil rights movement of 1950.

The Civil War (1861-1865), 13th amendment (1865) and the Emancipation Proclamation (1863) ended the robust economic engine, the east atlantic slave trade, an economic engine that grew wealth for many white settlers for 246 years.

Between 1865 and 1950 Blacks (African Americans) were terrorized by those who still saw them not as humans but property. Even though blacks were able to go to school and open businesses, they were met by the Ku-Klux-Klan Or the Night Watch and even the State militias groups were hired to enforce racist law.

Unfortunately, the justice system is still biased today and the muse of slavery is still prevalent and we see that to this day with situations like George Floyd, whose death went unanswered by the judicial system until international protest burst out across the world. The evolution of technology to street cameras and hand held cameras allowing for immediate upload to the World Wide Web means we have proof that the racism that fed slavery and Jim Crow still takes precedent in the judicial system today.

The fight against law enforcements original muse may have evolved but it’s still prevalent today regardless of the successes and contribution people of color have given to the United States.

References:

Platt, Tony, “Crime and Punishment in the United States: Immediate and Long-Term Reforms from a Marxist Perspective, Crime and Social Justice 18 (1982).

Reichel, Philip L., “The Misplaced Emphasis on Urbanization in Police Development,” Policing and Society 3 no. 1 (1992).

Now is the time to stand up for what’s right! There are many ways you can help and be apart of the good fight. Check out the links listed below:

Cameron Lamb (petition link): https://act.grassrootslaw.org/sign/investigate-cameron-murder

Various different positions and more information on ways to help: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

Why do we as women continue to be friends with women who constantly judge us for simply being ourselves

Often times we stay in friendships God has been trying to pull us out of for so long. Holding on is always worse then letting go but I know how hard letting go can be because I’ve been there. You hope that the people you call friends will love you, respect you, treat you how you treat them, and simply be there for you but sometimes that isn’t always the case. In situations like this it’s best to trust God or else you’ll deal with more then God intends for you to deal with.

Often times it can be confusing especially if you’re someone like me who really takes friendships seriously. I don’t use the word friend loosely and I would do anything for my friends so when it isn’t reciprocated I take it hard.

One thing that I know I can count on are the friends I do have that show me love no matter what. I have friends who support me and correct me with love, friends who have taken the time to get to know me for me and love me for me and I’m truly appreciative of every single one of them.

Any friend I’ve lost, it’s never any hard feelings because I’ve become the type of woman who can walk away from things and people with my head held high. I know who I am and whose I am and I know what type of friend I am.

Never allow anyone to make you feel bad for being who you are! ❤️

Why Do We As Women?

Why do we as women put our mental and emotional health in jeopardy to fix something only God can fix?

Being a woman is already hard enough, we do a lot of things in life on our own because lets be honest, if we do not do it who will? We cook, clean, give birth to children knowing the risks and knowing the pain we will endure on a physical and mental level, we raise them and do most of the heavy lifting, we fight against what society tries to put on us, we fight to be treated equal not only in the work place but in life in general; all while trying to find time to practice self care. On top of all of that, you then add a woman’s natural reaction to fix things. Our maturity and our ability to see things others cannot see puts us in a space, where often times, we forget to stop trying to fix it and let God fix what we are trying to fix. We become so stressed out and emotionally off balance that we don’t even realize that God is trying to simply get our attention.

Don’t get me wrong, fixing things isn’t always a bad thing but when God is showing you that he wants you to stop and give it all to him; do just that. You cannot make anyone do right by you, you cannot change anyone’s mind or heart, you cannot force someone to see your worth, you cannot change your situation, and you cannot change that outcome of anything. People will project their issues on to you, treat you bad, dismiss you, take you for granted, walk all over you, gaslight you, and use you. Most days you will feel like the world is on your shoulders and you will feel like nobody seems to understand what you are going through, you will be tired and exhausted, which is why it is important to step back and let God work it out. The more we try to fix things on our own timeline the more God will push his timeline back. God has the solution but he cannot work it out until we are completely hands off.

So, hear me out sis! That problem that has you stressed, that problem that is causing you anxiety and sleepless nights, that problem that seems to be beyond repair, are all problems too big for you to take on. But guess what? There is no problem to big or too small for God; he knows all and sees all so let him do the heavy lifting while you sit back, live life, study Gods word, and be ready to receive those blessings he has waiting for you. God wants to give you your hearts desires but you have to be ready to receive it.

Women’s History Month: Supa

In honor of Women’s History Month I want to give props to women who are opening doors and showing the world that women can do anything, LITERALLY!

Today I would like to recognize Raynell Steward, also known as Supa. She is a mom, a fiancé soon to be wife, a boss, a friend, a sister, winner of the Social Hustle Award from BET, and most importantly a woman who shares her knowledge freely with the world! If you don’t know about her then you’ve been living under a rock. This beautiful boss lady is the CEO of The Crayon Case and just last year, on cyber Monday she made $1 million dollars selling her products. Just recently Supa broke her own record with her Taxmas sell making $1.37 million in less then 2 hours.

Supa has touched a lot of people, she builds relationships with her fans, she’s extremely humble, and she continues to break barriers and open doors all while being who she is and staying true to herself! Let’s take the time to recognize Supa for all she has done and don’t forget to head over to The Crayon Case and grab some makeup, I have most of her products and I promise you won’t be disappointed!

Women’s History Month: Aleali May

In honor of Women’s History Month I want to give props to women who are opening doors and showing the world that women can do anything, LITERALLY!

To all my fellow ladies who love sneakers just as much as I do, you probably already know about the young lady I am going to speak about! To my fellow readers who aren’t that into sneakers, please take the time to read about this young lady who is making history in a male dominated world!!

Aleali May, born in Los Angeles on July 10, 1992, is a woman who gives hope to all women who love sneakers and shows us how taking over a male dominated industry isn’t impossible!

This young lady became the first female collaborator for Air Jordan’s: for both women’s and men’s! This is a major major accomplishment because it breaks the barriers and opens up so many doors for other women who aspire to accomplish things that may seem impossible. Making your way in a something that’s so heavily dominated by men speaks volumes!

Shoutout to you Aleali!

Twitter: @alealimay
Air Jordan 1 Retro High OG “Aleali May” First pair released in collaboration with Jordan!
Air Jordan 1 Court Lux High OG “Aleali May” Second release in collaboration with Jordan!
RELEASE DATE: March 2019, third release in collaboration with Jordan!

Motivate Me Mondays: Doing what you are passionate about

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. – Nelson Mandela
I am always so inspired by those who truly tap into their passions in life. We live in a world where people feel as though their passion has to take a back seat to the things people expect of us. I truly believe it is important to be happy in life and to be happy you must do things you are truly passionate about. Never allow anyone to make you feel as though your passion is not good enough because we all know it takes a lot of courage to do what we love. Jenell is the perfect example of someone who has never been afraid to do what makes her happy and recently she started a business to fulfill her passion in life. I was able to ask her a few questions and I hope that her answers will help someone who may be having a hard time with following through with what they are passionate about, here is her story:

1. Who is Jenell? Tell a little bit about yourself
Jenell McMillon, 26, Event Planner and Entrepreneur. I was born, raised and currently reside in New Jersey. New Jersey is home but I decided to take a huge leap of faith in 2009 by attending thee Illustrious North Carolina Agricultural & Technical State University in Greensboro, NC. Being 8 hours away from home, I had to learn to rely on myself to get things done. I’ve always had that independent mentality but there is a difference between being independent in your hometown versus a new state with no friends or family at the age of 17. Although it was difficult, the transition was needed and taught me things about myself that I would have never learned. I am a passionate, ambitious, self motivated and creative young black woman. God continues to be at the forefront of my life and I give him all the credit as I walk in the path that he has laid out for me. 
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2. When did you start your business ?
I launched my business on April 30, 2017 at 7:30pm EST.
3. What was the motivation behind starting your business ?
My sister and I decided to do a watch series for New Edition at our house in January for young adults (ages 25-35) from our church. As people were coming in, I was applying for jobs. I have a tendency of reading out loud before sending things over and one lady (Cortney) decided to ask more about my event planning since she overheard my experience.
Side note: I always seen Cortney in church but never spoke to her until this one day. 

I advised her that I have been planning events for 6 years. Starting with my sorority (DST) to BET Networks to my current place of employment, the list goes on. She was so impress and asked if I was interested in wedding planning. I told her that I’ve shadowed a wedding planner but never coordinated a wedding even though it is a future interest. She immediately asked why I was waiting and that I could use her wedding as my first wedding. As you can tell, the conversation moved so quick but I knew this was nothing but God pushing me towards my dreams of starting my own company. I told her yes and the start of JNicole Events begun. 

I will forever be thankful for Cortney and Amir. Mr. and Mrs. Griffin, thank you for putting your trust and faith in me to execute my first wedding for your special day!
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4. What obstacles and/or set backs have you had to overcome ?
As an event planner, we have to find ways to stand out amongst the rest especially in an area like the Tri-State. Competition is real. I became worried that I wouldn’t receive a lot of interest from prospective clients due to my location in South Jersey. Some may say that we are a state of our own. However, I have learned to use that to my advantage because people will need events no matter where you are. Word of mouth will always be the number one marketing tactic and this tactic has continued to be an asset for my company.
5. What keeps you motivated ?
This may sound cliché but it’s the smiles and satisfaction of my clients that keep me motivated. I love knowing that every detail they could have ever imagined was executed flawlessly.
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6. How much has it grown since you started?
Whooh! I am almost 3 months in and I currently have 10 booked events until the new year in New Jersey, DC and Atlanta. Oh, we are growing!
7. As you continue to expand, where would you like to see things going in the next 2-3 years?
I would love to see my company become my full time job within the next 3 years while continuing to provide my services beyond the Tri-State area.
8. What are 2-3 goals you would like to accomplish to help with expanding your business ?
  1. Obtaining my MBA in entrepreneurship
  2. Receiving my event certification
9. What advice do you have for young women like yourself?
Never be afraid to start your own! Continue to use your strengths to help others and you will always find your passion.
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10. What sets your apart from other event planning companies ? What makes you unique?
This was my main question that I asked myself before starting JNicole Events. I’ve always noticed that when people “make it” they are hesitant on talking about the day to day struggles it took to get to where they are currently at in their career. I decided to use my love for writing and photography into my company. Before the launch, I’d blogged daily to let my readers especially my young black readers understand that we all had to start from somewhere and here’s how it begun for me. I continue to write about the daily triumphs and challenges as I proceed to turn my dream into reality. I’ve used my love for photography and videography on my website/social media to increase all levels of creativity. I’ve been able to turn my 3 passions (event planning, writing and photography) into one with JNicole Events in hopes that people will use my story and company as motivation for starting their own business. 
11. If you could tell anyone who is trying to start a business one important thing, what would it be?
Trust your instinct!
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12. Where can people go to find out more about JNicole Events?
Please check me out at www.eventsbyjnicole.com
I am also on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter: @JNicoleEvents
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Motivate Me Monday: A true love story

“True love doesn’t happen right away; it’s an ever-growing process. It develops after you’ve gone through many ups and downs, when you’ve suffered together, cried together, laughed together.” – Ricardo Montalban

Love stories are by far one of my favorite things to share with the world. We live in a society where people do not view love the same way they use to back in the day. Often times people play with love or they simply do not believe in it anymore. There are people in this world who still believe in that true genuine love story and keeping the faith in GOD can get you to that point. In today’s world we want everything to happen so quickly with out realizing that certain things take time and they take real effort. Sasha Campbell has a very beautiful love story that she allowed me to share, here is her story:


1. Who is Sasha Campbell? Tell me more about yourself and your husband

Sasha Campbell, 27, Chemist/ Product Developer I
My husband’s name is John Campbell. We are two years apart in age. We come from 2 totally difference backgrounds, were raised differently and even act completely differently. But somehow, it works out because we balance one another. He is the calm and mellow one. I am the one to pop off with a quickness and then fuss at him for not popping off. But it always works out because he is always there to calm me. He has a lot of patience, which is something that I needed in a husband because I am not. It is crazy how we are complete opposites but we balance one another.

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2. How did you meet your husband?

John and I met at North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University. He was a senior and I was a sophomore at the time. I would always see him in the café around 5pm and I found myself glancing around when I was there to see if I would see him. He was the first guy to ever make me nervous so I never went to him to speak. This is not like me because I am often outspoken without a filter. But John just presented himself like HE KNEW HE WAS IT… like he was THE MAN. From the way he was always fresh with a clean cut, from the way he would always wear his Polo hat turned to the back all cool and whatnot, from the way his shoulders used to sway back and forth as he walked. His walk used to scream “Yeah you are lucky if YOU get my number. And if you do, I will THINK about picking up. I may be too busy chilling.” And I was not the only one who thought this apparently. John still thinks til this day that there is nothing wrong with how he walks and he doesn’t understand why “girls” think he is full of himself. And in reality, he isn’t… he just presents himself that way. So anyways, I had joined a local party promoting company (one of the worst decisions in my undergraduate career, just to put out there) and I was basically over the street team that promoted the company’s parties. One day I was recruiting people in the cafeteria and I pointed out John and his friend to a young lady who was helping me recruit. I remember saying “I would ask them but they are seniors… and they look so stuck up. I always thought the one with the hat was cute though.” The young lady found this comical and she went over to recruit them. To my surprise, John agreed to join. So she called me over to explain how the company worked. I later found out that John used the company just to get to know me and he never had a single interest in promoting the parties. Apparently, he had told his friend who was sitting with him (Preston, who was also the best man in our wedding) that he was going to talk to me before he graduated. Preston responded, “Man John Willie… no you not.” And John said, “Yeah I am man. I am going to talk to her before I leave here.”

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3. Give me one key story about your relationship that let you know that you two were made for each other?

God has always made it very clear that we were meant to be together. After all, our relationship all started off of a prayer. When I first officially met John in the café that day, I was actually holding on to a DEAD relationship. So we didn’t start talking right away. Me and my current boyfriend were actually on a break but I wanted to make sure that I was completely done with him before I entertained anyone else. So when John asked my relationship status, I told him that I was in a relationship. I never explained that I was on a break and just wanted to see if I was done with my current boyfriend because I did not want any distractions. I will say we met around October 2009 and I actually called off my relationship Christmas that same year. John and I had kept in contact but I never really made a move. John had actually gotten out of a long term relationship himself but wanted to find a serious relationship once again. One night, he told God that he was “ready to settle down” and it was so strange, the next day I asked him if he wanted to hang for the first time ever. John knew deep down that I was the one for him and it was a sign.
Fast forward, we start dating. We get our first apartment together and begin living together. We were both still in college… and still very much broke trying to make ends meet. I will be the first to say that I am not the easiest to live with. Everything has to be a certain way; I do not like messes or germs. Blame it on my bio degree. But one day, we had gotten into an argument… I cannot even remember what it was about. And that was the thing about John and I. We never had any REAL problems. The things we would argue about were always so small. The real big issues, you would think would cause an argument, never did. We always worked out the big issues with ease. Anywho, we had gotten into an argument about something silly and I left the house to head to work. At the time I was driving a Hyundai Sonata that would PURR. You couldn’t even tell when the car was on because it drove so quiet. As I was backing out of my park, the car made a loud SCRUUUUUUUUURRRREEEEEEECK!!! noise. John came flying out of the apartment. He thought I had gotten in a car wreck. We weren’t sure where the noise originated from so John said he wanted to drive me to work. He did not feel safe with me driving on my own. Later that night, John was running late to pick me up from work. I was still pissed from earlier so this did not help. So I called him. John told me that on his way to come pick me up… his transmission completely went out. He had no previous signs that this would happen and was very shocked and frustrated.
So here we were. Two broke college kids, stuck at the house looking at one another because both of our rides are out of commission. Now we look stupid because we have to figure out how in the world are we going to fix TWO cars. We found out that there was something wrong with my timing belt, which was expensive because my car had a V6 engine. And he needed a new transmission. But somehow, we made it work. John conveniently waited until after our cars were fixed to say, “Yeah… you probably have no idea but this was all my fault.” I replied, “What do you mean?” He says,”Well , remember that day we got into that argument and you were getting ready for work. I always knew that we were meant to be together… but for some reason, I asked God for confirmation. That is why we both got stuck at the house. What are the odds that your timing belt goes out and my transmission goes out the same day? Especially when both cars were perfectly fine before my prayer. God made it so that we were both stuck at the house and we had to work together to get through this. This was my sign.” I wasn’t sure at the time to be pissed that he had cost us so much money or touched that he cared so much about our relationship. All I could say was “Man you better be more specific in prayer. What in the world!”

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4. What is special about your relationship and what makes your love story unique?

I never knew love at first sight ever existed. But John and I have both agreed that it does. Little did I know, those days where I would glance around to see if he was in the café, John says he would intentionally try to come to the café every day at the same time in hopes of seeing me. While I thought he was unapproachable… he was actually going out of his way just to see me… just to make eye contact for a brief second. There aren’t many love stories that are “love at first sight”. In fact, many people do not believe in it. And I will be the first to say, our love story is SO DAG GONE CHEESY… but I have loved every moment of these 7 years together.

John was raised in a strictly religious household. Religion was kind of something that my parents let me discover on my own. My step mother is Jewish and up until a year before he passed, my father did not claim a religion. Thankfully, he gave his life to the Lord a year before he passed.

5. What type of role has GOD played in your relationship?

As mentioned above, God has always been present in our relationship. And what has amazed me is how we will get an answer about something so much faster vs when I pray on something just by myself. It is almost as if, when my husband and I are on one accord and we pray on something… we get an answer so fast and clear. I tear up thinking about how blessed we are at times because God has really guided our relationship. Yeah, we both have degrees, we are home owners, we have good credit… but our biggest asset is our relationship with God. I know it was God who has carried the both of us through our hardships, individually and together.

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6. What are 3 key things that are important in a relationship?

I always say that you and your partner should not only grow emotionally and mentally… but spiritually as well. I was independent at an early age. Asking for help has always been a hard thing for me to do, even when it comes to asking God for help. Every time a difficult situation arises in my life, the first thing my husband will ask is “Well Sasha, have you prayed about it.” Let me tell y’all… there is NOTHING like an obedient and praying husband.

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7.What encouraging words of advice would you give someone who feels like love is just not possible?

The biggest problem I see in our generation with relationships is that people do not like to commit. We let our egos get in the way of ever loving someone. And for those who do let their guard down, they do it with the wrong people. We have to do a better job with learning WHO is worth an investment and who is not. You have people (such as myself previously) holding on to dead relationships and it does nothing but block you from a potential blessing. For all you know, you can be wasting your time with Mr. Wrong and your Mr. Right might get snatched up by another chic because you are too busy trying to make something work with someone who was not sent for you by God. I ALMOST passed up on my blessing with John because when I was finally single… I did not want to be in a relationship. When God sent John my way, I actually questioned it. I told the Lord I was not ready for a relationship and why did He have to send him now?! But look at it all now, John is literally the best thing that has ever happened to me. Learn who to invest in… and don’t be so quick to let them go over small things. Find someone with potential. A lot of people pass by others because they aren’t where they want them to be in life. When John and I met one another, we were both broke and I had a lot of pain built up inside. But John worked through that. IT WAS NOT EASY. I was angry at the world for a long time. But he felt that I was worth it. And he did not give up on me. Find someone who loves you for who you are and wants to GROW with you. Find someone you can build with. Find someone who won’t let go even when you are ready to give up. I would not be the woman I am today if it was not for him. And THAT’S what you want in a man.

 

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