Meet Chic In Sneaks

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from Kiara, also known as chicinsneaks on IG. Kiara is a woman who not only has genuine love for sneakers but also has a way of telling a story; her story telling captures you and keeps you coming back for more owith each series she drops. Check out what she has to say when it comes to Respect Female Sneakerheads

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What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Personally, it means we deserve seats at allllll of the tables. Content wise, board room, design and storytelling. Respect our ideas, our sneaker closets and us as women in general. Afford women the same opportunities to enhance the brands that we patronize so heavily. We shouldn’t have to prove why we deserve space here.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

I pull inspiration from so many women, but the ones that are top of mind are Kimmiski @kimmiskiart, Passion @_artdealher, Mo @mobumbbbaaa, Janyne @sneakervibesonly, Ny @solelyaboutnyyyy, Lee @iknowlee, Kia @thenotoriouskia.

There are so many talented ass women in this space that offer more than a good outfit. Don’t get me wrong, we love a good lewk..but I also appreciate how these women appear to incorporate their authentic selves into their content. This space is filled with women that empower each other, use their gifts and serve as inspiration to others along the way. I love to see it and I’m glad I’m gang!

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

As a creative, we are multifaceted and all have so many different interests. Don’t put us in a box or have a limited expectation about what we bring to this space. Every woman is unique in her choice of expression, style and content. Being a Black woman, we know this culture would not exist without us. Appreciate the flavors we serve on a regular!

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Be sure to give Kiara a follow on IG: https://instagram.com/chicinsneaks?utm_medium=copy_link

Meet Monika

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from Monika, a woman who not only has an amazing sneaker collection but also a nice vinyl collection; she provides her followers with a lot of history on old school music artists

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What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Women are passionate about the sneakers just like men and we should be given props and well deserved respect. Always give encouragement to a person, no matter where the person comes from, what’s their life situation, their profession or financial status. Everyone deserves to be a part of this community if true passion and love are shown. Everyone has their own pace and they shouldn’t compare to others.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

It’s easier to name five women than just one. I’ve met so many inspiriting women in this space. They made me feel welcome. I have a sense of belonging. Each woman is unique and different. They are being authentic in representing their spirits, life stories and giving support to others as well. One of them is Kiah @simplykiah with her SNKR facts. Giving us knowledge while showing off her awesome sneaker collection. I love Kiara @chicinsneaks and her sneaker content. She has an amazing storytelling ability. Kai Nicole is very passionate about sneakers and her brand @sneakermess. She’s a host of Sneaker chat. I love that she includes others from the community in her IG lives. Janyne @sneakervibesonly is an amazing woman. She’s a host of Good for the Sole Convos on IG. She always shines a light on the importance of mental health. When mentioning advocates for mental health, I have to mention Key @key2ursole She’s a phenomenal collector. I love the versatility in her collection and how she’s not afraid to be her true self.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

I would change the treatment female sneakerheads get from men who just hopped on the sneaker trend. All they care about is getting the latest heat. They get surprised when you show the knowledge they didn’t know existed.

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Be sure to give her a follow on IG: Monika.wav

Meet Founder and Creator of If_I_Cant_Wear_Snkrs

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from Christina, creator and founder of If_I_Cant_Wear_Snkrs. Christina is a woman who makes every effort to provide women with a safe space within the sneaker community and her social media is also dedicated to giving women information on many different sneaker releases.

@if_i_cant_wear_snkrs

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

To respect all women within the sneaker community regardless of age, race, religion, sexual orientation, body type, and experience. Respect shouldn’t be something that has to be earned, it should be a given.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

Unfortunately I can’t just choose one woman, I have to choose two. The women of CNK Daily, Cassidy and Channing, are such an inspiration to me. From the platform they’ve built, their business moves, to the knowledge they provide, their interviews, to how they welcome any and every woman within the sneaker community with open arms is so refreshing to see. They navigate thru the sneaker community with such class and thoughtfulness. Always uplifting other women (especially women of color). I remember when Channing reached out to me with a simple “So proud of what you’re doing” during a time where I wanted to throw in the towel and it meant the world to me. I remember when Cassidy recommended some books to me about mediation as well. Kind gestures like that are few and far between.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

If it’s one thing that I could change about the sneaker community is the competitiveness. Especially among other women within the community. This community is big enough for everyone and we can all win when our time comes. In the meantime continue to support and amplify other women and I guarantee you will get it back in return.

Be sure to give her page a follow: @if_i_cant_wear_snkrs

If you are interested in following a page that provides a safe space and sneaker drop information, then this is most definitely one of the best pages on IG for the ladies who love sneakers!

Meet SneakerFreakSyd

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from SneakerFreakSyd, a woman who is not only making her mark in the sneaker community but also a social/digital media genius!

@sneakerfreaksyd

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

To me, it’s a mantra of awareness that women also have a strong foundation and have built supportive communities in a male dominant space. It’s three simple words that shed light on all the amazing women who continue to have a voice through creativity and style in the sneaker industry.

Who is one woman in the Sneaker Community you look up to and why?

There are honestly so many, whether it’s because of their creativity, their platform or just showing their authentic selves through the connection of sneakers. But if I had to pick just one I would say Christina from @if_i_cant_wear_snkrs. The platform she’s created to not only connect women but keep them informed without a team and without being paid is just a true testament and example of the force women are in the sneaker culture.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and perceived in the sneaker community what would it be?

One thing that I would change is that we always have to have “a hint of girly girl” in our style or our preference of sneakers down to color ways and silhouettes. There’s so much diversity in the who, what, when, where, why and how we are connected to this space. It’s a lot more than us just being girls in cute shoes.

Be sure to give her a follow on IG: SneakerFreakSyd

If you’re interested in growing your brand and presence on social media follow her business page, Digital319

Why do we as women continue to be friends with women who constantly judge us for simply being ourselves

Often times we stay in friendships God has been trying to pull us out of for so long. Holding on is always worse then letting go but I know how hard letting go can be because I’ve been there. You hope that the people you call friends will love you, respect you, treat you how you treat them, and simply be there for you but sometimes that isn’t always the case. In situations like this it’s best to trust God or else you’ll deal with more then God intends for you to deal with.

Often times it can be confusing especially if you’re someone like me who really takes friendships seriously. I don’t use the word friend loosely and I would do anything for my friends so when it isn’t reciprocated I take it hard.

One thing that I know I can count on are the friends I do have that show me love no matter what. I have friends who support me and correct me with love, friends who have taken the time to get to know me for me and love me for me and I’m truly appreciative of every single one of them.

Any friend I’ve lost, it’s never any hard feelings because I’ve become the type of woman who can walk away from things and people with my head held high. I know who I am and whose I am and I know what type of friend I am.

Never allow anyone to make you feel bad for being who you are! ❤️

Why Do We As Women?

Why do we as women put our mental and emotional health in jeopardy to fix something only God can fix?

Being a woman is already hard enough, we do a lot of things in life on our own because lets be honest, if we do not do it who will? We cook, clean, give birth to children knowing the risks and knowing the pain we will endure on a physical and mental level, we raise them and do most of the heavy lifting, we fight against what society tries to put on us, we fight to be treated equal not only in the work place but in life in general; all while trying to find time to practice self care. On top of all of that, you then add a woman’s natural reaction to fix things. Our maturity and our ability to see things others cannot see puts us in a space, where often times, we forget to stop trying to fix it and let God fix what we are trying to fix. We become so stressed out and emotionally off balance that we don’t even realize that God is trying to simply get our attention.

Don’t get me wrong, fixing things isn’t always a bad thing but when God is showing you that he wants you to stop and give it all to him; do just that. You cannot make anyone do right by you, you cannot change anyone’s mind or heart, you cannot force someone to see your worth, you cannot change your situation, and you cannot change that outcome of anything. People will project their issues on to you, treat you bad, dismiss you, take you for granted, walk all over you, gaslight you, and use you. Most days you will feel like the world is on your shoulders and you will feel like nobody seems to understand what you are going through, you will be tired and exhausted, which is why it is important to step back and let God work it out. The more we try to fix things on our own timeline the more God will push his timeline back. God has the solution but he cannot work it out until we are completely hands off.

So, hear me out sis! That problem that has you stressed, that problem that is causing you anxiety and sleepless nights, that problem that seems to be beyond repair, are all problems too big for you to take on. But guess what? There is no problem to big or too small for God; he knows all and sees all so let him do the heavy lifting while you sit back, live life, study Gods word, and be ready to receive those blessings he has waiting for you. God wants to give you your hearts desires but you have to be ready to receive it.

Women’s History Month: Supa

In honor of Women’s History Month I want to give props to women who are opening doors and showing the world that women can do anything, LITERALLY!

Today I would like to recognize Raynell Steward, also known as Supa. She is a mom, a fiancé soon to be wife, a boss, a friend, a sister, winner of the Social Hustle Award from BET, and most importantly a woman who shares her knowledge freely with the world! If you don’t know about her then you’ve been living under a rock. This beautiful boss lady is the CEO of The Crayon Case and just last year, on cyber Monday she made $1 million dollars selling her products. Just recently Supa broke her own record with her Taxmas sell making $1.37 million in less then 2 hours.

Supa has touched a lot of people, she builds relationships with her fans, she’s extremely humble, and she continues to break barriers and open doors all while being who she is and staying true to herself! Let’s take the time to recognize Supa for all she has done and don’t forget to head over to The Crayon Case and grab some makeup, I have most of her products and I promise you won’t be disappointed!

Motivate Me Mondays: Are you being your true authentic self?

Belcalis Almanzar also known as Cardi B was born on October 11, 1992 in Bronx, NY. You may have seen Cardi B on IG as @iamcardib or on your TV screen on the well known reality TV show Love and Hip Hop New York. Cardi B is known for never hiding anything about herself from, the people she has and does date to the way she makes her money or in the words of Cardi B her “shmoney”. She is a very lively, outgoing, vocal, down to earth, funny, real, authentic type of person who became an Instagram celebrity while stripping and once she stopped stripping she worked on pursing her dreams of being a rapper and songwriter. When she started to become well known on Instagram she started doing a lot of appearances and then when she took up rapping she shocked the world with her talent. Her most recent mixtape, GBMV2 may prove to be her best work to date.

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Cardi B has faced A LOT of backlash for the type of things she says especially on Instagram but that never stopped her from continuing to be who she truly is. In today’s world, where we deal with so many people who are fake and unauthentic, it seems as though people would be able to appreciate someone who is so authentic; but of course things just do not go that way. Cardi B is the homegirl from around the way who does not care what anyone thinks of her, that just so happened to become famous. Cardi B is also all about empowering women and speaking out on the different things that many other famous people choose to be silent about and that right there alone should be more then enough for people to at least respect her as a person.

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Love and Hip Hop New York is where we really saw alot more of Cardi B on somewhat of a deeper level. The show gave viewers a chance to learn more about her, her dreams, and her love life. These days people are so close minded and judgemental towards people who do not fit into what they consider normal in terms of how someone should act, speak, and dress. Often times I believe that we forget that no person is the same as another person and just because someone acts in a way that you are not use to does not mean it is wrong. We have to stop letting another persons opinion about who we are make us change who we are in order to please them. There is nothing wrong with growth and change because no one stays the same but it has to be done for yourself and nobody else. In life you will deal with people who do not like you because you’re confident enough to speak on how you feel and because you have no problem with being your authentic self. Let Cardi B be an example of not allowing peoples opinions to effect you to the point that you try change who you are because everybody will not like you and that is okay.

Are you comfortable with always being your true authentic self?

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Why Do We As Women?

Why do we as women continue to be loyal to someone who is not loyal to us?

The word loyalty means a lot when it comes to relationships and friendships because the people close to us are the ones we expect to be loyal to us no matter what. We judge people off loyalty because the way someone is loyal to another person can tell you a lot about the type of person they are. People become so stuck on making sure they are always fully loyal to their friends, family members, and significant others that they sometimes can’t tell when that person is not being fully loyal to them or they are completely blind sided when finding how just how loyal as person has been. Years of friendship ruined, family members cut off, and significant others left all over lack of loyalty; it is a serious thing.

There are so many ways to show your loyalty to someone from the way you take up for them, especially when they are not around to take up for themselves, to the way you lookout for them. If you are the type of person who is loyal to those around you that you care about then I applaud you 100% but what about the times when people have not been as loyal to you? Sometimes we give people the loyalty we expect but do not realize that everybody cannot give you that same loyalty in return which can be a hard pill to swallow. Loyalty helps to build trust and any type of relationship you have will not last if there is no trust.

I am the type of person who is very loyal to the people around me who I love and care about but there have been times where I misjudged someones loyalty to me and I had to find it out the hard way. For me, being loyal is an all or nothing type of thing so if you cannot be as loyal to me and I am to you then we have no business having any type of relationship. There have been times where I was being so loyal to a person only to find out they were not giving me the same loyalty in return.

I have found myself being loyal to a guy I was in a relationship with because in my mind being in a relationship had me thinking that a guy would automatically be loyal to me; I was wrong and I could not see how wrong I was because feelings clouded my judgement. I have even been loyal to a guy that I was not in a relationship with because again it is just the type of person I am. It took more incidents then it should, in both of those situations, for me to finally realize that I was being loyal to a guy who did not deserve one ounce of loyalty from me. To this day I regret it but things happen; you learn from them, move on, and do better next time. We have to remember that it is okay to stop giving people things when we are not given the same in return; never let your loyalty make a fool of you.

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Motivate Me Monday: What is your passion?

“A passionate belief in your business and personal objectives can make all the difference between success and failure. If you aren’t proud of what you’re doing, why should anybody else be?” – Richard Branson

It is important to always be aware of what your passionate about in life because it is easier to achieve what you love then it is to achieve something you do not love. Everyone has the ability to do what they want in life as long as they keep the faith and never allow anyone or anything to get in their way. As a woman, stepping into a world that is highly male dominated world has many challenges in itself. The music world is very very competitive and certain paths such as rapping and DJ’ing are very male dominated, so as a female there are already two things you are up against from the very start. Female DJs are not rare but they are competing in a competitive and highly male dominated world which is never an easy thing to do. DJ KDOT knows and relates to this very well because she has been DJ’ing for over 5 years. She was willing to share with others about her journey in the music world as a DJ, here is her story:

1. Who is Khadijah Thomas? Tell me a little bit about yourself
My name is Khadijah Thomas but I go by KDOT  I am 22 years old soon to be 23.  I have a B.S. in Management Information Systems from the Illustrious North Carolina A & T State University. I am also a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. initiated into the Amazing Alpha Mu Chapter and I am currently a technical specialist for Apple but most importantly I am an Entrepreneur. I am originally from Buffalo, New York. I consider Rosedale, Queens (NYC) home as that is where my family settled when they came from Trinidad.

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2. How long have you been a DJ and what is the reason behind wanting to become a DJ?

I have been a DJ for 11 years; I started learning at 12 right before I turned 13 and it’s something that runs in my family. I was the first girl grandchild and happened to be the first girl in my family interested in DJ’ing. My Dad and uncle were my biggest influences as they have been doing it for years.

3. How was the name DJ KDOT created? 

Well my step sister gave me the nickname KDOT back in 8th grade and for whatever reason it just seemed to stick with me and everyone. It was only natural  that it became my DJ name once I actually started to branch out underneath my family.

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4. What obstacles have you faced and/or still face as a female DJ?

As a Female DJ there are a few obstacles I face with it being such a male dominated industry. Small things like when I am going to set up for events and have a gentleman helping me carry equipment a lot of people will assume the  guy is the DJ and not me. I even get questions like “so do you really DJ or is this something you do for fun?” There is a stereotype behind female DJs not having skills and that’s one thing I focus on the most; the art and skill of DJ’ing. Outside of that one of my least favorite thing to deal with is the egos of other male DJs, especially when working together. Overall I think as a person I vibe with people naturally and stay focused on myself so I have never had a traumatic experience but it does happen occasionally.

 
5. What keeps you motivated?

Ultimately my love for music and a good time is what keeps me motivated. Also my desire to be my own boss as well. There is so much freedom within being a DJ that is   indescribable. Singing and dancing was something I did early in my life until I fell in   love with DJ’ing so the music has always been a big part of my life.

6. Who are 3 of your favorite DJs that inspire you? 

DJ Spinderella – We can’t talk about female DJs without thinking about her. She was one of the first female DJs I knew of.

DJ Kid Capri – His energy is unmatched and he puts passion behind what he   does. True entertainer

DJ MC – I met him through my network at NCAT and he was one of the first seasoned DJs to really take an interest in my craft and actually want to help me.   Most importantly he is HUMBLE.

 
7. What advice do you have for female DJs who are just starting out?

The best advice I could give is to learn who you are as a DJ because you will not be like anyone else. Find your style and also be open to work on other styles as well. If you take your craft seriously people will take you seriously.

8. Where do you see yourself in the next 2 to 3 years?

In the next 2 to 3 years I see myself traveling a lot more to DJ. Between my background and musical preferences I would like to think I am very versatile and  would love to be a traveling DJ.

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9. How were you able to make a name for yourself? Are you available to be booked for events? If so what type of events? 

Networking was the biggest thing as far as making a name for myself and ultimately my performance. I am available to be booked for a variety of events including: Weddings, Baby Showers, Birthday Parties, School events, Fashion Shows, Clubs, Mixing needs etc.

10. How would you define success?

I would define success as the point in which I have accomplished my set goals   and even though I will continue to strive for more I am content with all that I have. On a smaller scale, getting request for my business cards or compliments after my performance makes me feel successful.

11. Are there any upcoming projects and/or events you would like to mention?

I am DJ’ing a Cultural Day Party on May 6th 2017 @ Greene St Nightclub.  Outside of that I have a few private events this summer that I am excited about!

12. What are the top 3 things you have accomplished as a DJ that you are proud of?

1) DJ’ing in another country

2) DJ’ing a gym jam at NCAT that was packed with 1200+ people

3) Having one of my mix challenges go viral. My Love Come Down challenge on   soundcloud currently has 29,000 views and rising!

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13. Where can people go to learn more about you and your more of your music?

My website is http://www.theedjkdot.com. On my website I update my most recent soundcloud mixes and events. All of my social media handles are @XOXODJKDOT

If you want to book me, please email me at management@theedjkdot.com

 

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