Meet Chic In Sneaks

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from Kiara, also known as chicinsneaks on IG. Kiara is a woman who not only has genuine love for sneakers but also has a way of telling a story; her story telling captures you and keeps you coming back for more owith each series she drops. Check out what she has to say when it comes to Respect Female Sneakerheads

@chicinsneaks

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Personally, it means we deserve seats at allllll of the tables. Content wise, board room, design and storytelling. Respect our ideas, our sneaker closets and us as women in general. Afford women the same opportunities to enhance the brands that we patronize so heavily. We shouldn’t have to prove why we deserve space here.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

I pull inspiration from so many women, but the ones that are top of mind are Kimmiski @kimmiskiart, Passion @_artdealher, Mo @mobumbbbaaa, Janyne @sneakervibesonly, Ny @solelyaboutnyyyy, Lee @iknowlee, Kia @thenotoriouskia.

There are so many talented ass women in this space that offer more than a good outfit. Don’t get me wrong, we love a good lewk..but I also appreciate how these women appear to incorporate their authentic selves into their content. This space is filled with women that empower each other, use their gifts and serve as inspiration to others along the way. I love to see it and I’m glad I’m gang!

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

As a creative, we are multifaceted and all have so many different interests. Don’t put us in a box or have a limited expectation about what we bring to this space. Every woman is unique in her choice of expression, style and content. Being a Black woman, we know this culture would not exist without us. Appreciate the flavors we serve on a regular!

@chicinsneaks

Be sure to give Kiara a follow on IG: https://instagram.com/chicinsneaks?utm_medium=copy_link

Meet Monika

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from Monika, a woman who not only has an amazing sneaker collection but also a nice vinyl collection; she provides her followers with a lot of history on old school music artists

@Monika.wav

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Women are passionate about the sneakers just like men and we should be given props and well deserved respect. Always give encouragement to a person, no matter where the person comes from, what’s their life situation, their profession or financial status. Everyone deserves to be a part of this community if true passion and love are shown. Everyone has their own pace and they shouldn’t compare to others.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

It’s easier to name five women than just one. I’ve met so many inspiriting women in this space. They made me feel welcome. I have a sense of belonging. Each woman is unique and different. They are being authentic in representing their spirits, life stories and giving support to others as well. One of them is Kiah @simplykiah with her SNKR facts. Giving us knowledge while showing off her awesome sneaker collection. I love Kiara @chicinsneaks and her sneaker content. She has an amazing storytelling ability. Kai Nicole is very passionate about sneakers and her brand @sneakermess. She’s a host of Sneaker chat. I love that she includes others from the community in her IG lives. Janyne @sneakervibesonly is an amazing woman. She’s a host of Good for the Sole Convos on IG. She always shines a light on the importance of mental health. When mentioning advocates for mental health, I have to mention Key @key2ursole She’s a phenomenal collector. I love the versatility in her collection and how she’s not afraid to be her true self.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

I would change the treatment female sneakerheads get from men who just hopped on the sneaker trend. All they care about is getting the latest heat. They get surprised when you show the knowledge they didn’t know existed.

@Monika.wav

Be sure to give her a follow on IG: Monika.wav

Meet Founder and Creator of If_I_Cant_Wear_Snkrs

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from Christina, creator and founder of If_I_Cant_Wear_Snkrs. Christina is a woman who makes every effort to provide women with a safe space within the sneaker community and her social media is also dedicated to giving women information on many different sneaker releases.

@if_i_cant_wear_snkrs

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

To respect all women within the sneaker community regardless of age, race, religion, sexual orientation, body type, and experience. Respect shouldn’t be something that has to be earned, it should be a given.

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

Unfortunately I can’t just choose one woman, I have to choose two. The women of CNK Daily, Cassidy and Channing, are such an inspiration to me. From the platform they’ve built, their business moves, to the knowledge they provide, their interviews, to how they welcome any and every woman within the sneaker community with open arms is so refreshing to see. They navigate thru the sneaker community with such class and thoughtfulness. Always uplifting other women (especially women of color). I remember when Channing reached out to me with a simple “So proud of what you’re doing” during a time where I wanted to throw in the towel and it meant the world to me. I remember when Cassidy recommended some books to me about mediation as well. Kind gestures like that are few and far between.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

If it’s one thing that I could change about the sneaker community is the competitiveness. Especially among other women within the community. This community is big enough for everyone and we can all win when our time comes. In the meantime continue to support and amplify other women and I guarantee you will get it back in return.

Be sure to give her page a follow: @if_i_cant_wear_snkrs

If you are interested in following a page that provides a safe space and sneaker drop information, then this is most definitely one of the best pages on IG for the ladies who love sneakers!

Meet SneakerFreakSyd

RESPECT! That is what women deserve in the sneaker community so my goal is for you to meet some of these women via my blog so you can get an understanding on how they feel. There are 3 major questions that come to mind for this topic:

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

Who is one woman in the sneaker community you look up to and why?

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and/or perceived in the sneaker community, what would it be?

Who else is better to learn from then the women within the community? Today we will hear from SneakerFreakSyd, a woman who is not only making her mark in the sneaker community but also a social/digital media genius!

@sneakerfreaksyd

What does respect female sneakerheads mean to you?

To me, it’s a mantra of awareness that women also have a strong foundation and have built supportive communities in a male dominant space. It’s three simple words that shed light on all the amazing women who continue to have a voice through creativity and style in the sneaker industry.

Who is one woman in the Sneaker Community you look up to and why?

There are honestly so many, whether it’s because of their creativity, their platform or just showing their authentic selves through the connection of sneakers. But if I had to pick just one I would say Christina from @if_i_cant_wear_snkrs. The platform she’s created to not only connect women but keep them informed without a team and without being paid is just a true testament and example of the force women are in the sneaker culture.

If you could change one thing about how women are treated and perceived in the sneaker community what would it be?

One thing that I would change is that we always have to have “a hint of girly girl” in our style or our preference of sneakers down to color ways and silhouettes. There’s so much diversity in the who, what, when, where, why and how we are connected to this space. It’s a lot more than us just being girls in cute shoes.

Be sure to give her a follow on IG: SneakerFreakSyd

If you’re interested in growing your brand and presence on social media follow her business page, Digital319

Why do we as women continue to be friends with women who constantly judge us for simply being ourselves

Often times we stay in friendships God has been trying to pull us out of for so long. Holding on is always worse then letting go but I know how hard letting go can be because I’ve been there. You hope that the people you call friends will love you, respect you, treat you how you treat them, and simply be there for you but sometimes that isn’t always the case. In situations like this it’s best to trust God or else you’ll deal with more then God intends for you to deal with.

Often times it can be confusing especially if you’re someone like me who really takes friendships seriously. I don’t use the word friend loosely and I would do anything for my friends so when it isn’t reciprocated I take it hard.

One thing that I know I can count on are the friends I do have that show me love no matter what. I have friends who support me and correct me with love, friends who have taken the time to get to know me for me and love me for me and I’m truly appreciative of every single one of them.

Any friend I’ve lost, it’s never any hard feelings because I’ve become the type of woman who can walk away from things and people with my head held high. I know who I am and whose I am and I know what type of friend I am.

Never allow anyone to make you feel bad for being who you are! ❤️

Why Do We As Women?

Why do we as women put our mental and emotional health in jeopardy to fix something only God can fix?

Being a woman is already hard enough, we do a lot of things in life on our own because lets be honest, if we do not do it who will? We cook, clean, give birth to children knowing the risks and knowing the pain we will endure on a physical and mental level, we raise them and do most of the heavy lifting, we fight against what society tries to put on us, we fight to be treated equal not only in the work place but in life in general; all while trying to find time to practice self care. On top of all of that, you then add a woman’s natural reaction to fix things. Our maturity and our ability to see things others cannot see puts us in a space, where often times, we forget to stop trying to fix it and let God fix what we are trying to fix. We become so stressed out and emotionally off balance that we don’t even realize that God is trying to simply get our attention.

Don’t get me wrong, fixing things isn’t always a bad thing but when God is showing you that he wants you to stop and give it all to him; do just that. You cannot make anyone do right by you, you cannot change anyone’s mind or heart, you cannot force someone to see your worth, you cannot change your situation, and you cannot change that outcome of anything. People will project their issues on to you, treat you bad, dismiss you, take you for granted, walk all over you, gaslight you, and use you. Most days you will feel like the world is on your shoulders and you will feel like nobody seems to understand what you are going through, you will be tired and exhausted, which is why it is important to step back and let God work it out. The more we try to fix things on our own timeline the more God will push his timeline back. God has the solution but he cannot work it out until we are completely hands off.

So, hear me out sis! That problem that has you stressed, that problem that is causing you anxiety and sleepless nights, that problem that seems to be beyond repair, are all problems too big for you to take on. But guess what? There is no problem to big or too small for God; he knows all and sees all so let him do the heavy lifting while you sit back, live life, study Gods word, and be ready to receive those blessings he has waiting for you. God wants to give you your hearts desires but you have to be ready to receive it.

Women’s History Month: Supa

In honor of Women’s History Month I want to give props to women who are opening doors and showing the world that women can do anything, LITERALLY!

Today I would like to recognize Raynell Steward, also known as Supa. She is a mom, a fiancé soon to be wife, a boss, a friend, a sister, winner of the Social Hustle Award from BET, and most importantly a woman who shares her knowledge freely with the world! If you don’t know about her then you’ve been living under a rock. This beautiful boss lady is the CEO of The Crayon Case and just last year, on cyber Monday she made $1 million dollars selling her products. Just recently Supa broke her own record with her Taxmas sell making $1.37 million in less then 2 hours.

Supa has touched a lot of people, she builds relationships with her fans, she’s extremely humble, and she continues to break barriers and open doors all while being who she is and staying true to herself! Let’s take the time to recognize Supa for all she has done and don’t forget to head over to The Crayon Case and grab some makeup, I have most of her products and I promise you won’t be disappointed!

Motivate Me Mondays: Doing what you are passionate about

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. – Nelson Mandela
I am always so inspired by those who truly tap into their passions in life. We live in a world where people feel as though their passion has to take a back seat to the things people expect of us. I truly believe it is important to be happy in life and to be happy you must do things you are truly passionate about. Never allow anyone to make you feel as though your passion is not good enough because we all know it takes a lot of courage to do what we love. Jenell is the perfect example of someone who has never been afraid to do what makes her happy and recently she started a business to fulfill her passion in life. I was able to ask her a few questions and I hope that her answers will help someone who may be having a hard time with following through with what they are passionate about, here is her story:

1. Who is Jenell? Tell a little bit about yourself
Jenell McMillon, 26, Event Planner and Entrepreneur. I was born, raised and currently reside in New Jersey. New Jersey is home but I decided to take a huge leap of faith in 2009 by attending thee Illustrious North Carolina Agricultural & Technical State University in Greensboro, NC. Being 8 hours away from home, I had to learn to rely on myself to get things done. I’ve always had that independent mentality but there is a difference between being independent in your hometown versus a new state with no friends or family at the age of 17. Although it was difficult, the transition was needed and taught me things about myself that I would have never learned. I am a passionate, ambitious, self motivated and creative young black woman. God continues to be at the forefront of my life and I give him all the credit as I walk in the path that he has laid out for me. 
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2. When did you start your business ?
I launched my business on April 30, 2017 at 7:30pm EST.
3. What was the motivation behind starting your business ?
My sister and I decided to do a watch series for New Edition at our house in January for young adults (ages 25-35) from our church. As people were coming in, I was applying for jobs. I have a tendency of reading out loud before sending things over and one lady (Cortney) decided to ask more about my event planning since she overheard my experience.
Side note: I always seen Cortney in church but never spoke to her until this one day. 

I advised her that I have been planning events for 6 years. Starting with my sorority (DST) to BET Networks to my current place of employment, the list goes on. She was so impress and asked if I was interested in wedding planning. I told her that I’ve shadowed a wedding planner but never coordinated a wedding even though it is a future interest. She immediately asked why I was waiting and that I could use her wedding as my first wedding. As you can tell, the conversation moved so quick but I knew this was nothing but God pushing me towards my dreams of starting my own company. I told her yes and the start of JNicole Events begun. 

I will forever be thankful for Cortney and Amir. Mr. and Mrs. Griffin, thank you for putting your trust and faith in me to execute my first wedding for your special day!
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4. What obstacles and/or set backs have you had to overcome ?
As an event planner, we have to find ways to stand out amongst the rest especially in an area like the Tri-State. Competition is real. I became worried that I wouldn’t receive a lot of interest from prospective clients due to my location in South Jersey. Some may say that we are a state of our own. However, I have learned to use that to my advantage because people will need events no matter where you are. Word of mouth will always be the number one marketing tactic and this tactic has continued to be an asset for my company.
5. What keeps you motivated ?
This may sound cliché but it’s the smiles and satisfaction of my clients that keep me motivated. I love knowing that every detail they could have ever imagined was executed flawlessly.
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6. How much has it grown since you started?
Whooh! I am almost 3 months in and I currently have 10 booked events until the new year in New Jersey, DC and Atlanta. Oh, we are growing!
7. As you continue to expand, where would you like to see things going in the next 2-3 years?
I would love to see my company become my full time job within the next 3 years while continuing to provide my services beyond the Tri-State area.
8. What are 2-3 goals you would like to accomplish to help with expanding your business ?
  1. Obtaining my MBA in entrepreneurship
  2. Receiving my event certification
9. What advice do you have for young women like yourself?
Never be afraid to start your own! Continue to use your strengths to help others and you will always find your passion.
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10. What sets your apart from other event planning companies ? What makes you unique?
This was my main question that I asked myself before starting JNicole Events. I’ve always noticed that when people “make it” they are hesitant on talking about the day to day struggles it took to get to where they are currently at in their career. I decided to use my love for writing and photography into my company. Before the launch, I’d blogged daily to let my readers especially my young black readers understand that we all had to start from somewhere and here’s how it begun for me. I continue to write about the daily triumphs and challenges as I proceed to turn my dream into reality. I’ve used my love for photography and videography on my website/social media to increase all levels of creativity. I’ve been able to turn my 3 passions (event planning, writing and photography) into one with JNicole Events in hopes that people will use my story and company as motivation for starting their own business. 
11. If you could tell anyone who is trying to start a business one important thing, what would it be?
Trust your instinct!
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12. Where can people go to find out more about JNicole Events?
Please check me out at www.eventsbyjnicole.com
I am also on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter: @JNicoleEvents
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Motivate Me Mondays: Overcoming betrayal

“For me, I always wonder what’s worse: an emotional betrayal or a physical betrayal? That’s a really tough call.” – Hilarie Burton
Often times in life we always hear people say to be careful how you treat other people because you never know what other people have been through. Adriane Lanier decided to share her story of how she overcome certain betrayals in life that no one should ever have to deal with. Her story shows her strength as a woman and just as a human being because sometimes it is not easy to overcome the things we endure in life, here is her story:

Who is Adriane Lanier?
I am JMU double Duke (BBA/MBA) currently living in the DMV working as a Cybersecurity professional. I was born in California and raised in Virginia Beach by two amazing Georgia bred people.
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Do you mind sharing about the 3 different incidents you have dealt with throughout the course of your life?
My body has been disrespected in every since of the word. I have been sexually assaulted, molested, and raped by people I once held near and dear to me and strangers. The worst of them all [physically] was when I was setup by a coworker and attacked by 6 grown men. I had unspeakable things done to me and was not sure I would even make it out of there.
How did you handle dealing with all of this?
A lot of days I was literally just going through the motions of life. I felt numb for quite some time. I have had depression, severe ptsd and at one point I was even suicidal (it clearly didn’t work lol). For years I smiled and joked my way through the pain. I kept busy so I wouldn’t have to be alone in my misery and think about it until it became routine and my smiles became genuine again.
Is it possible to take back your life after something like this happens ?
It is definitely possible to regain control over your life, but a strong support system is imperative. Had it not been for my friends and sorors I would have never gotten help. It took YEARS of therapy. I have occasional flashbacks and nightmares, but its nowhere near what it used to be. There are still certain things that can trigger those feelings of fear and discomfort and I don’t think they will ever go away so I do my best to avoid them. My support system was there for me every step of the way to recovery. Discovering I had severe PTSD, facing reality of how damaged I really am, lifting me up when boys would leave me because they couldn’t handle my baggage, praying for me harder than I could pray for myself, uplifting me any time they felt like I was down, keeping me honest and always showering me with positive vibes and unconditional love.
How were you able to gain the courage to now be able to share your story with other people?
My support system has encouraged me to do it for years. I didn’t think my story would impact others, but the more I began to open up to other people I knew, the more I realized that my story can positively impact someone else who is fighting battles nobody knows about. I went from feeling embarrassed about it all to realizing that it was not my fault and I did nothing to deserve any of what happened to me. I got the courage to tell my story because I want women to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel more than I cared to bury this painful chapter of my past.
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At this very moment, if you had to choose one person to recognize that has helped you get past what you’ve been through who would that person be ?
Oh man…I can’t just choose one person because there were phases to the recovery and many obstacles. I have one best friend who was there from the very beginning up until my self declared freedom, Crystal Cole. I have friends I have grown apart from, but will always respect how they were there for me when things were at their worst (Aaron Campbell, Charlie Celesia, Kitara McMoore). However, I have met so many amazing people along the way that have helped me so much in so many ways that I could never tell my story and not think of them. When I say I have been blessed with a strong support system, I honestly don’t know what I did in life to deserve such amazing friends but I thank God for them daily (my JMU family – Its like 10 extra people lol).
What keeps you motivated ?
My desire to succeed and leave the world a better place than I found it.
How would you define success?
Success is whatever you want it to be. As long as it involves feelings of genuine happiness in most, if not all, aspects of life, I would call it success.
What is one thing you have accomplished in life so far that you are most proud of?
Learning the power of forgiveness and conflict resolution. For those who know my history and know how rowdy and unforgiving I once was, this was HUGE for me. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. When you carry hate or resentment for long periods of time it can affect your personal and professional growth. Learning to forgive makes handling conflict (personal and professional) much easier.
Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?
In the next 5 years I plan to be a business owner leaving my mark on the Cybersecurity industry while spreading STEM awareness and love to the next generation so they can, too, leave the world a better place than they found it.
What are some things that you have achieved that make you proud ?
I am proud of my career accomplishments, but I am more proud of my personal growth. I never imagined I would have so many amazing opportunities and be where I am in my career at age 29. I also never thought I would be where I am today. I have found myself, I have found my inner peace (and plan to hold onto it with every ounce of my being), I have found self awareness, my smiles are genuine and my happiness is sincere. THAT is what I am most proud of.
What advice can you provide to those who have been raped, molested, and/or attacked?  
It is okay for you to tell your story and work towards reaching inner peace and stability, whatever that means to you. While you cannot undo what has happened, you CAN take back your life.There is light at the end of the tunnel. Just know you are not alone and there are plenty of people who love you and want you to know that your life is worth living.
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Motivate Me Mondays: Overcoming your struggles

‘The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.”

-Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

It is not secret that in live we sometimes struggle but it is all about how you overcome the struggles you are faced with. Often time we are ready to give up before actually finding a way to make things better for ourselves. Sometimes we bring things on ourselves based off how we speak about the current situations we find ourselves in, in life. We also seem to forget that what you deal with can be worse, someone else would trade their life for yours with no hesitation. It is important to remember to not allow yourself to stay down for too long. Deal with it, pick yourself up, come up with a  plan, figure things out, and accept the blessings along the way. This is exactly what Joia did and she was willing to share her experience with others, here is her story:

Who is Joia Swanson? Tell a little bit about yourself

I am a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, and a person with a big heart and desire to please others. I used to think that having these types of qualities would lead to me never being happy, but so far I have learned that they have also been my biggest blessings in molding me into the woman I am, and still becoming today. Ive learned to embody the sensitivity and heart that I have for people in everything that I do.
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How old were you when you had your son?

I was 19 and a sophomore in college when I found out that I was pregnant with my munchkin. I was on the track team and never imagined my life with a kid, and as cliché as it sounds I definitely couldn’t imagine my life without him now.  He is the epitome of love for myself and my family.
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How did you and your husband meet?

I met my husband when I worked for a call center in Hampton after a horrible break up with my sons father. I found out my sons father was cheating, and my husband was there to comfort me just as my friend and was willing to wait for me to be ready to be in a relationship; no pressure, just a natural progression of love and friendship and he is also awesome with Jaylen. He grew up with a step father and was very sensitive to the fact that being a father is a journey that he doesn’t take lightly. Being married has come with many challenges, he is the biggest teddy bear yet one of the strongest people I have ever met. He loves hard and fierce just like everything else he does in life, and he is a pusher, he has never let me quit on anything , and that was such an important quality that I admired about him when we first got together because my self-confidence was in the trash. He was very reassuring verbally with his intentions, and his love and he followed through on everything, and that consistency was what eventually won my heart over. He showed me that true love looks nothing like I thought it would because he is definitely not my “type” but the Lord knew exactly what I needed when he sent him to me.
How has your relationship with your husband and your marriage helped you on your journey of becoming a better woman? Did this help you change your outlook on men and relationships?

My relationship with my husband has really been about learning. Learning acceptance, forgiveness, picking your battles, and prioritizing relationships. These are things I can carry over into my everyday life, that have helped me push myself to become a better woman which in turn makes me a better wife. My husband is a pusher, he had a rough time growing up, and he has always had that “go get what you want” mentality. I have had the mentality but never quite as much drive as I do now which happened once I got with him. I see him working hard to follow his dreams and support our family and it makes me want to work just as hard if not harder to keep up. We push each other and support each other in weaknesses and strengths; it is an amazing balancing act, and I am so grateful to have him to lean on. So far through our relationship and and marriage he has helped me see that I am capable of so much more than I give myself credit for, and with the right support and encouragement I can do anything I put my mind to.
Being loved correctly has changed my outlook on relationships. It has shown me that effort, and consistency go a long way into breaking down barriers that we’re around my heart and allow to me to be vulnerable and rest in my femininity in a way I didn’t know was possible. I didn’t know that men were capable of such compassion and drive, while still maintaining a masculine vibe and being true to their selfs. He is a great example of the type of man i would like my son to be as well. My dad has always been my example of what a man should be and he is the sweetest man alive, and also very soft hearted. My husband has shown me that you can have that soft heart, and not give people the ability to push you around without loosing out on being your truest self.
God keeps me motivated, on the days when i want to give up on myself he definitely gives me strength. My husband and family are a great support system as well, but i always know i can lean on the lord for strength and guidance.
What else keeps you motivated ?

My faith, my husband, my son, and my family keep me motivated I have an amazing support system.
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What is one thing you have accomplished in life so far that you are most proud of?

I am most proud of starting my own business. I have taken the leap of faith and partnered with Mary Kay I am now an independent beauty consultant. I really want the flexibility to be able to support my family, to be able to work my own hours, and to be my own boss. I never felt like I was built to work for anyone else and I also want to show others how to achieve their dreams especially women with children.
Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years ?

In the next 5 years I see myself with at least two more children living somewhere close to the beach and making sure that I travel at least 3 to 4 times a year with my family exposing them to the culture and different parts of the world
What are 2-3 goals that you would like to accomplish ?

Things that I am going to accomplish specifically in the next two to five years would be trying to becoming a millionaire; I want to be a national sales director which is one of the highest honors in the Mary Kay business. I want to open my women’s shelter specifically for single moms I would also like to finish my master’s degree
What are some things that you have achieved that make you proud ?

Something that has made me proud would definitely be my son. I wanted to make sure that he grew up to be a productive member of society and even though he is five and a handful he definitely knows how to behave in has a very caring heart for people all of his teachers all of his friends his karate instructors say how big of a hard he has how awesome he is with his friends how polite he is house mannered and that makes me very proud something else that I’m also very proud of is sharing financial literacy with people my age I realize that something that we are very lacking in in general and in the black community so everything that I’m learn I make sure that information is shared whether it’s just with family and friends or their ladies I come in contact with or my Mary Kay Associates because that is something that you can steadily improve on and always grow in. I am also very proud of my marriage, I know as a semi newlywed we’ve only been married a year and a half that is really hard to say but I’m proud of the fact that we still stick by each other through everything and we have been through just about all of it from custody battles with my ex to being separated more than we’re apart to having jobs and not having jobs and just being really supportive of each other no matter what I think that’s strength will carry us through for the next 40 50 year however many years God blesses us with.
How would you define success ?

I think the way that success is defined is a very personal measure for each person. For example, I am trying to improve my health and fitness so for me a successful day is if my jeans fit better and I felt better about myself in general just for exercising; that was a very small success in a larger picture. Success could be getting out of bed in the morning for someone if you’re depressed or making sure that your children are taken care of so success is going to look different in the eyes of each person so you have to personally define success for yourself. I would say it’s the daily wins that you give yourself whether that is self-care or making sure that you are advocating for yourself or opening your mouth when you hear something that you don’t like because it’s very hard for us, especially as women and as nurturers who care about people, to make sure that our needs are also taken care of so I would say success is putting your self care first so you are the best version of yourself which will then allow you to take care of others.
What advice can you provide for someone who may be on the same or somewhat similar path that you were on before being kicked out of school ?

The best advice I would give for anyone in my particular situation especially someone who gets pregnant young. Find a support system, find your tribe, find a group of people to surround you, to uplift you, to encourage you, and to hold you accountable. If it was not for my immediate family, my husband, and my son looking up to me everyday and the group of ladies that I call my friends, I don’t think I would be as successful as I am now. I’m not a millionaire, I’m not even a thousand-are but I am on my way and making steady progress everyday. Don’t give up, if you believe it you can achieve it. Make sure you set goals for yourself and make them happen, find the way to achieve those goals even if it’s a small goal, achieve that goal, move on to the next bigger goal, and keep building on those goals and count every goal as a success. Count every step to that goal as a success because you are steadily making progress towards what you want your life to look like and that is something no one can take away from you, that progress and that passion and that drive then dig into it and remember to re motivate yourself and take care of yourself in everything that you do and you can be the best mother the best wife the best coach the best teacher the best the best version of Who You Are
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